A deeply spiritual, erotic massage can enhance your foreplay routine. It is also known as a tantric or hypnotic massage.
This sensual act is a meaningful way to connect with your partner, and to share and vibe off of each other’s sexual energies.
And by engaging in this practice, you’ll not only heighten your state of arousal You can learn the art of touch and also change your routine by incorporating the common acts of touching. KissingA touch of oral sex is added, followed by lust-inducing actions until the climax. Sure, it’s fun, but trying something new always has a sense of magic about it.
What is Tantric Massage?
Tantric massage is an ancient practice, but can be enjoyed today with a modern twist. It’s a mix of an erotic massage, and a session for relaxation. mindfulness. There are some key elements to consider when you give your partner an erotic massaging.
Tantric massage requires that both partners are present in the moment, in a loving, calm, and accepting manner. It’s the act of tapping into all of the seven chakras, and sharing energy in a fashion that is both comfortable and satisfying for everyone involved.
When this happens, the belief that penetrative sexual sex is the ultimate goal for any tryst gradually disintegrates and people can be more aware that the point of Intimacy It is actually a form of pleasure. In fact, some tantric massages don’t involve touching of the genitals at all.
Remember that this practice does not require judgment to succeed. The experience can even be more powerful when breathwork is included.
According to Camilla ConstanceCoach for intimacy and sex:
“A tantric massage is a full-body massage that arouses sexual energy in the receiver and then consciously moves that energy around the body. It’s a beautiful way to experience the tantric approach to sex, where it is not about the goal or outcome, but about every moment of sensation and pleasure on the way.”
This creates sexual energy that is able to move around the body and can lead to stronger full-body ogasms. But there are a few more benefits to tantric massage…
Tantric massage is possible:
- Improve sexual stamina
- Treat emotional blockages
- Please help us incorporate mindfulness Spirituality In other areas of our lives
- Encourage healing from past trauma
How to practice Tantric Massage in 6 Easy Steps
In six steps, we’re going to teach you how to prepare for, and practice, tantric massage. It is only a guideline. Every experience and individual is unique.
Tantric massage is a unique art form that you can use in any way that feels most comfortable or pleasure-inducing.
How to prepare for a Tantric massage
Just like any other massage or relaxing activity, you’ll have to set the scene. There are no rules about comfort. You could take a shower before starting the massage. Light a few candlesUse essential oils, music, and/or a combination of these activities. Create a space that’s warm, nurturing, and that really heightens the senses.
According to Nadia DeenA sexual wellness educator
“Your surroundings are just as important as the massage itself, so spend some time planning your environment. Consider the temperature, look, sound, and the feel of the room.”
2. Massage Oils
Using oils during your tantric massage is key, as it’s a way to increase sensuality and to create a smooth, elegant glide. Your massage oil may have a scent that induces relaxation or comfort, depending on your personal preference. You can choose from your favorite scented oil or a non-scented. Olive oil.
3. Patience, Mindfulness
To really immerse yourself in the tantric massage process, it’s important to take your time and do not rush. When we’re under pressure when it comes to time, it can cause feelings of anxiety and worry. Conversely, be present and fully present at all times. Turn off your phone, make sure you have enough time for the massage, and engage in this practice when you know there won’t be any interruptions.
Tantric massages are best when both parties are in the right mind. Mentally, physically, spiritually. This is to ensure the maximum enjoyment and benefits as well as a light, positive, and tranquil energy transfer between the two of you. You can take note of the way you are breathing during the massage. Try to let go of all worries and intrusive thoughts.
How to give a Tantric massage to someone you love: How to get started
1. The Back
To begin a tantric massage, it’s advised to start on the back of the body. A massage can last between 20 and 30 minutes. The massager will gently massage the body with a large amount of oils.
It is important that the receiver has this same experience. They can be present and 100 percent present by feeling how their fingertips feel on the body.
Notice how the body reacts to different sensations and pressures, and allow intuition to guide the energy while reading the receiver’s body language.
2. The Front
After you’ve massaged the back, have the person you’re massaging turn over to their front.
And while it’s recommended to spend around 20 or 30 minutes on their back, it’s more so important that the receiver is fully relaxed by the time they turn over. It’s then that you’re going to gently tease the intimate areas. These areas are defined as:
- The penis: the language
- The vulva, vagina and yoni:
Begin by lightly brushing them. Next, focus your attention on the legs, feet and hands. You can do this for around 20 minutes if you put all your healing and loving energy into it.
3. Vagina/Penis: Lingam/Yoni
When it’s time to put more focus and energy into the intimate areas, be free of expectations. There is no goal (aka “aka”) OrgasmEach person will feel this type of stimulation and massage in their own way.
The experience allows the receiver to access their sensual side in a new, creative way.
Allow the recipient to feel a buildup of energy but maintain control. This is a skill that takes practice.
A Lingam Massage
Begin slowly moving towards the testicles. Massage them gently. Then move to the perineum, if that’s what the receiver enjoys.
You can massage this sensitive area by applying pressure approximately one inch from the anus. The receiver will feel a slight rush of excitement. For extra bliss, stroke and stimulate simultaneously.
Again, listen to the receiver’s body to find out what they’re enjoying. Next, you can gently stroke the shaft at the base. Slowly and carefully move towards the head.
A second step that you could include is: prostate massage, which can be done by inserting one finger into the anus, creating a hook-like gesture so that it’s pointing to the front of the body. It is important to massage sensually, gently and with care. This could result in intense prostate orgasm.
It’s at this point that you can either practice edging (aka moving away from the pleasure-inducing zone and focusing on another area), or you could continue until a climax is reached. It’s all up to the receiver and what they’d prefer.
Additionally, if the receiver orgasms early on in the massage, this doesn’t have to mean the massage is over. After all, this practice is not about achieving an orgasm, it’s about the sensual experience and the exchanging of energy.
A Yoni Massage
Just like the lingam massage, it’s imperative that the receiver prepares their body and mind. They must breathe in and out with intention and create a space that is comfortable and relaxing.
A pillow can be placed under the head and back to provide comfort. Once the receiver is ready, they will place a pillow under their back and head, then bend their knees so that their feet are flat on the ground.
Start with the front part of your body for the yoni massaging. To begin, massage the abdomen and belly slowly and gently. This will help increase relaxation levels and get the blood moving.
Once you are ready, massage your breasts and areola. Do not touch the Nipples It may seem difficult at first because this is a highly sensitive zone of the erogenous. However, when you feel ready, grab or pinch them.
After this, you’ll move towards the vagina, starting with the legs and inner thighs. Make it a pleasant experience and allow the receiver to relax before trying out techniques on their genital area.
Some techniques can include:
- Cupping: When the hand is cupped over the vagina, it will slowly move in circular motions. The hand can be placed over the entrance to the vagina and the hand massages the entire region.
- Circling: Use the tip to your finger to circle around The clitoris In clockwise and anticlockwise direction. Change the pressure, pattern, and speed according to the receiver’s wishes.
- Push and pull: Pushing down on your clitoris allows you to use small, pulsating movements. Then, slide one finger down the length the vaginal canal on one side and keep pressure on your clitoris. You can continue this process on the other side.
- Tugging: Your thumb and index fingers should be used to hold the clitoris gently. Then pull it lightly and let go. For gentle stimulation, alternate between your index and thumb fingers.
- Rolling: Use your thumb and index fingers to grasp the clitoris. Next, run your fingers between them as if you were making a snapping gesture.
Another option is to Stimulate the G-spot. This may take some practice at first, but it’s well worth it due to the intense pleasure that the G-spot can bring.
Make a hook-like gesture using one or two fingers to massage the G-spot and then insert them into the vagina. It may be necessary to apply a lubricant, depending on the recipient. Once you’ve entered the vagina, you’re going to look for a spongy tissue that’s behind the clitoris… this is the G-spot spot.
Then use the “Follow this path” motion to stimulate the area. Remember that an orgasm is not the ultimate goal. Use careful strokes and different speeds to induce a feeling of sexual relaxation. However, if orgasm is reached, that’s perfectly fine (and wonderful!).
You can massage different parts of the body depending on how sensitive and desired the receiver is. You might even find their erogenous zones They are more sensitive after climax so be mindful of their needs and body language.
You could also practice edging during a yoni-massage in the same manner as the lingam technique.
When is Tantric Massage over?
Many believe that sexual or sensual contact is about orgasm. However, a tantric massage should not be about that goal.
The massage’s purpose is to stimulate sexual awareness and spirituality.
This type of massage is not meant to be ended once the climax is reached. It serves no purpose. The purpose is used often to promote inner healing and not orgasm.
So how can you tell when a tantric massaging is done? You should aim for a minimum of 30 minutes, and an average time of one and a quarter hours. But don’t use this as a means to time the experience. Let the body unfold naturally and allow the body time to adjust to the massage.
Let’s finish with a final thought. A tantric massage can seem intense, but it is not. Foreplay, it’s not advised to use it before penetrative sex. This experience is not intended to be a prelude or climax for penetrative sex.
After a tantric massage, engaging in sex could reduce its effectiveness, which would make it less effective.
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Her extensive knowledge of the sexual industry, escort industry and sex-toy marketing is a result of her writing for various publications and companies.