Being Sex for the first-time It can be nerve-wracking, scary and overwhelming for many. Although sex education, reading about the topic and engaging in sexual practices may not fully prepare you for your first experience, there are things that can help to make it a pleasant one.
After all, having penetrative sex is a spiritual act that’s an exchange of energy. Being intimate with someone, whether it’s for the first time or not, deserves to be enjoyed and treated with respect, and care.
With that, we’ve compiled a list of 15 tips for your first sex time experience, as well as a few first time sex positions that are great for you to dive into the world of penetrative pleasure.
Many may say that missionary is a standard position when it comes to sex. Some may even say it’s too vanilla Or boring. Missionary is the best choice for first-time sex positions. Let us tell you why…
Missionary First-Time Sex Position
For the person receiving penetration, missionary style sex is less intense. These are some examples of sex positions doggy style For example, deeper penetration may be possible. This might not be as enjoyable for someone who is just starting to experience penetrative sex. Missionary Eye contact is a great way of feeling more connected to your partner.
To be a sex-missionary style: The partner would place their head on the back of the other, and then they would both lie on their stomachs. It’s a simple yet staple sex position, and great for beginners.
Cowgirl, First Sex Position
The cowgirl sex position allows one to control the rate and depth of penetration. This allows the receiver to go as slow or as deep as they like, so they can feel the sensations of penetration without having to go too far.
To have cowgirl style sexual sex The receiver of penetration will Straddle your partner, lowering themselves onto their partner’s shaft. They can lean forward or sit up straight, or they could opt to lean back slightly, placing some of their weight onto their partner’s thighs.
Spooning a First-Time Sex Position
Spooning in a nonsexual context can be a great way for you to get to know your partner better and have some fun. cuddling. This is all that’s needed to release all of the love hormones. Oxytocin. When you are enjoying, Sucking sex, you’ll be able to feel a lot of skin-to-skin contact, making it quite intimate. It’s also a great position for vulva owners to receive a bit of clitoral stimulation, either from themselves or their partner.
To have spooning style of sex: Each partner will place their hands on the other side facing the same direction. Both partners will lie on their backs, with the small spoon slightly bent at the knees and the large spoon slipping behind them.
The Lotus First Time Sex Position
The Lotus sex position allows both partners to face each other, and gives them the chance to stimulate and tease each other’s erogenous zones such as the breasts, nipples, and clitoris. This, along with the fact you can engage deep kissing during your tryst makes this position great for beginners.
To be a lotus style sex The one-to-one relationship will see their partner on the couch or bed while the other will cross them, face-to–face. While the person on top may bounce up and back, the other can rock their hips around, giving them the freedom of finding their highest level of comfort. Another perk of this position is that vulva owners can be directly aligned with their partner’s pubic bone for Clitoral stimulation.
15 Tips to Get Ready for Your First Experience with Sex
With peer pressure, curiosity, and raging hormones, it’s normal to want to have sex. It’s also normal for adolescents to act impulsively. This is because their prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that’s associated with impulse control, only fully develops in one’s mid-20’s.
These 15 tips will help you get sexy for the first time.
- Be sure you’re doing it for the right reasons
- You can do it with someone who cares about your feelings, your body and you.
- Plan for it so that you’re mentally prepared
- Use protection—Condoms are the only birth control that protects you against STIs
- Don’t expect fireworks the first time, practice makes perfect
- Solo study of your anatomy will help you to get to know yourself better Masturbation Exploration
- Vocalise your anxiety and excitement to your partner
- You should get rid of the notion that only penetrative sex can be considered sex.
- You should get rid of the notion that sex is all about having an orgasm.
- You should not assume that sex ends when one partner orgasms.
- Slow down to make the experience as pleasant as possible
- Stop at any time that you’re feeling uncomfortable or unsafe
- Consent It is required at all times and can be given or removed at any time
- Engage Foreplay Before you start to feel aroused
- Use lube For a more relaxing experience
One final thought. It’s important to know that sex for vulva owners may be painful, and this is why it’s important to go slowly. However, the pain will subside, and penetrative sex can be a wonderful, sexually liberating, and orgasmic experience when you’re with the right partner.
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Her extensive knowledge of the sexual industry, escort industry and sex-toy marketing is a result of her writing for numerous magazines and companies.