We followed up with Megan Barton-Hanson to see what she’s been up to since we last spoke. Here’s the update on her recent orbit around the sun, future adventures, and sex advice for anyone.
First, Happy Belated 27th Birthday! We’re happy to see Post Malone (even the cardboard version) made it to your party. How did you celebrate?
So, I had a shoot day on my birthday – the thought of being alone and turning 27 wasn’t a vibe! For my Only Fans content, I made some ratchet cake smash videos.
When we last spoke, you mentioned that outdoor activities are one of your hidden passions. Are you able or unwilling to travel to new areas during the pandemics
Being outside is a great way to boost my mood. I’ve been trying to stick to the government guidelines so I haven’t been abroad, but I’m lucky enough to live by the seaside so… I love walks by the coast.
Have you tried any of the latest Tik Tok recipes yet?
No I haven’t! I’m such a grandma when it comes to TikTok – I really need to learn how to use it!
We love that you’re a proud Pisces. How does being a Pisces impact your sexlife?
Being a Pisces, we love to day dream so I’m always thinking up ways to spice things up in the bedroom and scenarios I want to create with a partner. Our sensitive nature means that I require a partner with a lot passion and affection.
You’ve mentioned on your IG that advocating for equality requires supporting other peoples’ life choices even if you wouldn’t do the same. Why do you think that women are quick to judge one another instead of being each others’ cheerleaders?
I think it’s internalised misogyny. A lot of women have this and I must say it’s not always their fault. For example, there are girls that say thing like “I’m not like other girls” – what does that mean? Is it possible for girls to be beautiful, strong and amazing? They seem to be trying to make men happy by making other women feel inferior. It is time to be supportive of each other, no matter what our interests may be. Feminism means supporting women to do whatever they want with their bodies.
Your advice should be based on communication, both inside and out of the bedroom. What tips do you have to improve communication skills?
You must improve your relationship with yourself. You will find it easier to love yourself and make your happiness a priority instead of trying to please everyone else.
Do you think it’s helpful or harmful to have a filter?
I think it’s good to a have a filter when speaking. You can still get your point across but in a kind way, there’s nothing more attractive in my option than a kind person.
What advice would you offer someone who is trying to bring sex toys into partnered sexual activity?
Some partners feel like a toy means they aren’t fulfilling your needs, but, really, it can be an added bonus to hopefully an already great sex life! Sending links to your partner would be a great idea. Let them know what toys you are interested in and how you would use them together. Sila, for example, can be comfortably held between your legs when you are going down on your partner.
Congratulations for the success of Your You Come First Podcast. Are there any topics that you found difficult to discuss?
We are grateful! Yes, most of the topics I cover on my podcast are quite deep in some regard or considered taboo. I’m brutally honest and love speaking about things no one ever spoke about when I was growing up. I believe that everyone can benefit from open conversation in all aspects of their lives. You Come First was to be fun and entertaining, but still be a safe place where everyone is welcome.
What time do you feel the most sexual?
When my mental health is at its peak and I’m meditating regularly! While manifesting and taking good care of my body, I also eat healthy food and exercise! Self-love can be sexy, and it helps you to connect with your body on an even deeper level.
Which era would you choose to be born in if you could?
I’d love to be born in the 70s purely for the outfits! I also love a disco track – I would be queen of the dance floor.
What would you choose to be if you could only have one cocktail?
A Cosmopolitan – sweet but strong!
You said that if you didn’t have your current career, you could see yourself on the other side of the camera. Do you see that as something you could do?
No, that’s not planned but my therapist suggesting training as a sex therapist – I think I’d really enjoy that! This is what you should be watching.
What’s remaining on your bucket list?
I want to travel more. It has been difficult for me to stay at home the last year. I want to explore more of this beautiful planet. I’d love to work more closely with protecting animals. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to cuddle a sloth!
Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work was published in The Journal of Sexology, and she is currently working on a book about love languages.