Although polygamy is common in many societies, monogamy remains the most popular way to have a romantic relationship.
We’re often bombarded with images, influences, and expectations to get married, have that white picket fence, three children, and a dog, then live happily ever after.
But because we’re more open-minded today in exploring the benefits of PolyamorySome may question monogamy’s benefits. Does it really serve a purpose in today’s society?
For some, seeing the other side of the same coin may appear more attractive than being exclusive, but the thing about that is—everyone is different. It doesn’t matter if what works for one couple isn’t for another.
These six monogamy benefits are not applicable to everyone. In fact, some of these “benefits” may actually be the reason why some choose not to be monogamous.
1. You can improve your sexual life
It’s true that sex can take some time to get to a place of sheer euphoria. Monogamous partners have the chance to explore each other, become more in-tune with their own and their partner’s body, and to communicate their needs, wants, desires, and fantasies. Monogamous couples can enjoy a better sex life by becoming more comfortable with one another.
2. Comfort Sex
Comfort sex refers to when you feel safe, secure, intimate, and connected with your partner. It’s not those wild one night stands nor the honeymoon phase of sex, but rather the ability for you to feel comfortable and relaxed during intimacy. Comfort sex can be quite routine but not boring. And by having it, you’ll be able to guarantee all the sexual bliss that comes with knowing someone on a trusted and more intimate level.
3. Explorative Sex
It is said that variety is the best thing about life. So, when you’re with someone you feel free yet also secure with, you’ll have the opportunity to explore some of your desires and fantasies. Comfort and time are key to communicating your needs and desires. Monogamous partners are able to see one another and feel comfortable enough to have a conversation about it. experiment With different sexual practices
4. Emotional intimacy
Monogamy has many benefits, not just sexual. Monogamous couples could be emotionally intimate on a level that’s nearly impossible to create with someone you’ve just met. It’s the chance to say that you exclusively give yourself over to one person, and with that you two can share a foundation of emotional, physical, mental, and Spiritual intimacy This can make it difficult to find them elsewhere. When you’re connected with another on all different levels, it makes for a stronger and more intense relationship.
While polyamory is practiced with boundaries, rules, and regulations agreed upon by both partners, it still doesn’t eradicate the chance of feeling jealous. Polyamory can only work if both partners are 100% committed to the relationship, not just agreeing to it in order to make their partner happy. Polyamorous couples often feel jealousy or insecurity due to their partner’s intimate relationships with others. Monogamy with fidelity creates a foundation for love and stability. ultimate trust It eliminates the risk of feeling alone, jealous, and uncertain.
While the honeymoon phase of a relationship is great, and it’s quite exhilarating to feel those butterflies in your stomach, being in a long term monogamous relationship gives you the chance to feel stable all the time. You don’t have to dress up or feel exposed, or be vulnerable to being rejected or made to look bad by others. There’s a level of true comfort that comes with monogamy, allowing both partners to really be themselves without the The dating highs and lows.
Male primates who prefer monogamy
Interestingly, there is a group of males that benefit from monogamy… that is, certain non-human primates.
One Study Published in Proceedings of National Academy of SciencesResearchers studied the sexual behavior of 230 nonhuman primates. Researchers found that monogamy is best for males because they are more likely to protect their offspring so that they can have their own offspring. Males can produce more offspring that females than males so the male would have to be less adaptive if he chose to mate only with one female.
This means that if the male primate was monogamous with one female, it was possible to protect his offspring so that infanticide was reduced, increasing his legacy.
Another study The results were analyzed by Tim Clutton-Brock and Dieter Lukas, both zoologists. “In mammals, social monogamy is a consequence of resource defense. Distribution of food has a significant influence on female behavior. And male behaviour is influenced by the distribution of females,” said Lukas.
This means that breeding females required access to high-quality food. Males preferred to have one female to raise their offspring than a harem.
No matter what, both studies reached a single conclusion: Monogamy was more favorable among males.
Do you believe in monogamy? Or are you more comfortable with a different type relationship for human primates?
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. She has extensive experience in the fields of sexual health, sex marketing, and escort business.