Sex is a fascinating phenomenon. It seems like a mysterious, wonderful thing that will transform your life before you even try it.
Sexually aroused is a good feeling. Masturbation sessions can be a great way to get some sex. You start to wonder what sex feels like when you have another person involved.
It can be hard to understand sexual attraction, how you feel when you are sexy, and what causes you to feel purged. There are many different sensations and hormones involved and it can be overwhelming.
So, let’s get down to the basics first — the science behind sexual pleasure:
Let’s Start with Science – Why Do I Feel Like Having Sex?
There are many reasons we feel the need to have sex. Our desire to reproduce is the most fundamental reason. According to sex therapists and associates Richard A. Carroll, Northwestern University professor, we’re wired to crave sex: “We are programmed to do so. Asking people why they have sex is like asking them why we eat. Our brains are designed to motivate us toward that behavior.”
However, we’re not living in the old times when the most important thing for humans was to extend their bloodlines and birth heirs to carry on the family name. We sex just because we feel good.
Our desire to have sex is controlled by hormones and our brain. Although pleasure can be found in stimulating our sexorgans, the brain is the main organ responsible for why we feel the need to have sex.
When you’re aroused, your Brain releases Serotonin, also known as the happiness hormone, makes you feel good. Dopamine is a hormone that makes it easier to want reward for doing a particular activity.
We are wired as humans to look for things and activities that make our lives better. Sex is one such activity.
How does Sex Feel?
There are many ways that sex feels. It is dependent on your gender and sexual preferences as well as your age. There is no doubt that what sex feels like in your early twenties will be absolutely different from what it will feel like when you’re in your late sixties.
It is a process that requires a lot of learning. Sex and sexuality require a lot of practice.
Different types of sex can produce different sensations. Anal sex may feel different from vaginal sex. This is because different organs and spots stimulated during each activity. They might also feel slightly differently.
What sex feels like might differ whether you’re in a relationship and having sex with someone you love or whether it’s just a one-night stand. Many people agree that sex feels way better when you’re doing it with a person you love and trust versus a stranger.
There are four “so-called” Stages of a sexual actThere are many sensations to each one:
This stage may cause you to feel more muscle tension, increased heart beat, and flushed skin.
This is also the time when your nipples get hard, women’s breasts feel fuller, and the vagina gets wet as well as the penis hardens.
The second stage is when muscle tension increases and your heart rate rises.
Their clitoris may become sensitive for women and can sometimes become painful. Their testicles can pull up to the scrotum for men.
The big O — the culmination of the sexual act is stage three. Both men and ladies experience muscle contractions at this point, mostly around the sex organs. However, it can happen anywhere on our bodies.
This is when you feel a sudden, powerful sexual release and flush.
Fun fact — women can continue and experience multiple orgasms during this stage; however, most men cannot keep going and need a break in between sexual stimulation.
This is the final stage of sexual activity, when your body returns back to its normal state.
It is characterized by a higher level of happiness, relaxation, and pleasant fatigue.
Is Sex Harmful?
No, sex shouldn’t hurt. However, if you’ve never had penetrative sex before, you might experience uncomfortable feelings and slight pain during sex.
If you’re having anal sex, it can be painful if you and your partner don’t take proper precautions and don’t get prepared.
You can minimize discomfort while having sex. Make sure you spend some time foreplaying, setting the mood and getting in the right frame of mind for sex. You will be more energized and have a better experience with sex.
Also, don’t be shy about using lube if natural lubrication from the vagina is not enough and penetration feels painful. The same goes for anal sex — you want to make sure that you’re using enough lube and you’re aroused before engaging in the activity.
Some people enjoy combining their pleasure with a pinch of pain. They might want to bite during oral or penetration sex. All sexual preferences can be accepted. Just make sure that you’re communicating with your partner before the act and are on the same page about your sexual preferences and pain tolerance level.
Also, some medical conditions such as endometriosis And vaginismus can make penetration painful. You should consult your doctor if you have any questions about how to feel comfortable while having sex.
What does it feel like to be sexy for women?
Because each person is unique, the experience of sex with a friend and you will be different. However, we’ve scoured the internet and found women sharing their experience of what sex feels like for women.
A woman who has experienced penetrative sex describes what sex feels like:
“If you’re not fully in the mood, then the act of penetration can feel like nothing remarkable. I’ve had sex where I felt nothing and could’ve concentrated on reading a book if I wanted. If you are in the mood, it’s intense and gives you tingles all the way up into your stomach, all about blood flow?” — source, Reddit
This is what sex feels like without a condom
“Yeah, I personally don’t feel the difference when my bf uses the condom vs. not using one. Sex lasts longer, so we got that going.” — source, Reddit
How does transsexual sex feel after surgery?
“So, I had a vaginoplasty. It’s different. I find it more comfortable. It only hurts because my doctor mis positioned it slightly, and I didn’t have a lot of material, so it’s very tight. Lube can be very helpful. It is nice to orgasm. <…> It takes me longer to get there. The orgasm itself is much more intense than what I used to have.” — source, Reddit
There are many different types of sex:
“Hmm, well, it really depends what kind of sex you’re having, but really it feels all sorts of the following: warm, tingling, sharp, shivery, hot, waves of temperature, slowly building from toes to head orgasm or slap you in the face surprise orgasm, soft, wet, hard, sweaty, full, twisting, grinding, sensual…
Now, if you’re asking what actual penis-entering-vagina actually feels like… hard to explain, but when my husband’s penis actually enters me, it’s like pop! It’s like a popping sound made by your finger with your tongue, but from the back. I’m not sure if that makes sense.
For me, the vagina isn’t a void, so when a penis goes from rubbing against my labia to actually entering, it’s just pop!, sigh, and then the real fun begins. This is really hard to explain. It’s just all sorts of awesome, I guess.” — source, Reddit
What does men feel about sex?
There is a huge misconception about men’s pleasure. While we tend to believe that men only need stimulation to have sexual pleasure, there are many other factors.
The penis is a part of men that responds well to stimulation. Men also have the bladder and prostate.
We’ve found what sex feels like for men on the internet, and it’s truly fascinating to hear how men feel about sex and pleasure.
A man who has had sex with men describes what sex feels like:
“From a [top] From a male perspective, it feels warm & wet. It’s almost like you have to go peeing right now. After that, you just let it go and cum. It feels like peeing, but there’s a definite difference. I’ve not managed to convince my bum to relax enough to bottom and have someone cum in me [yet]. At this time, no weird stories. Advice: lubricate.” — source, Reddit
What is the difference between sex with a female and masturbation for men?
“Honestly, the arousal-buildup-release pattern is similar to masturbation. However, the vagina is far more effective than your hand because of lubrication. It’s not as tight as you would think. It’s not as tight at first. Although you might have difficulty putting your penis in the vagina, it will eventually become easier. Then it’s not that tight anymore. Finally, sex has the advantage of emotional foreplay or stimulation because it’s a person as opposed to just your hands.” — source, Reddit
How men feel about vaginal sex:
“The simple answer is like filling instead of being filled. And when I’m super hard, and she’s cumming or close to cumming, it feels really powerful, like wielding a potent instrument of pleasure.
It is amazing to go slow and deep. It is amazing to be so close to her. To pull back and slide down again, it feels incredible. But it’s incredible to me too.
Yeah, basically comes down to the sensation of filling someone up and being in control of what they’re feeling, the rhythm and intensity of their pleasure.” — source, Reddit
What is the sex experience with a circumcised penis and an uncircumcised penis?
“I had a foreskin up until 3 years ago. You don’t need lube anymore. Put your cock on your vagina opening and push in. The foreskin of your penis rolls back when you push it in. My wife used to make cum in less than 2 minutes. It takes forever now. It’s still fun to have sex. It’s just different.” — source, Reddit
There are many pleasures to be had from sex.
However, if at first sex doesn’t feel as great as you would have hoped, don’t be upset. Be patient. There’s a learning curve.
For mind-blowing pleasure, communicate with your partner by exploring different sensations.
Karolina Wilde, a writer on sexual wellness, is her name. Her work has been published by The Ascent and P.S. She has published work on I Love You and Sexography to over 25,000+ people. She can be found podcasting, reading or creating TikTok videos during her free time.