We often talk about trying new things, trying new things, and finding ways to avoid boredom when we are reading literature online or self-help books.
What if the story was different? What if instead of going on a one-night affair or teaming up with someone new so that you feel comfortable in your own skin? This is, in essence, comfort sex.
Comfort sex refers to when we feel secure, intimate, and connected with someone, while also providing us with trust and familiarity. This person could also be a friend. Friends with benefitsYou, your spouse or yourself. You will be able to sleep with your new partner without feeling the butterflies and jitters that can accompany sleeping with someone else.
It doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary. In fact, it doesn’t even need to involve Penetration The climax. It’s merely the opportunity to feel that sense of security and to escape the outside world for a moment. However, it could also be called “sexy sex”. Driven by arousalThis can lead to some amazing orgasms. There are no rules when it comes down to comfort sex.
What is Comfort Sex?
Many women, especially, find it difficult to establish trust and intimacy with someone. This is particularly true for women. It’s true that many women need a sense of safety and Bonding in order to climax, and it’s true that slow, sensual foreplay is often the key to unlocking orgasmic potential. All of this is possible because comfort sex allows for it to happen.
It’s like a beautiful fusion of snuggling and sex, and leaves both partners feeling seen, safe, and comfortable enough to surrender to sexual bliss. It’s a way to soothe oneself emotionally as well as sexually.
“People have sex for a lot of different reasons, and one of them is to be soothed and comforted,” Michael Seiler (Ph.D.), sex therapist. In this way, comfort sex gives individuals the opportunity to feel sustained, rather than having experienced a ‘quick fix’.
Comfort sex can also be as private or public as you wish. Some people may feel more comfortable with certain sexual acts than others, but they are too embarrassed or shy for new partners to share their desires. Some people may be more comfortable with a trusted friend or family member enjoying their preferred pleasure activity. Comfort sex can have the incredible power to make people feel sexually secure and emotionally free. This may result in blissful orgasm.
One could also experience comfort sex only with their partner. Comfort sex does not have to involve a partner. Comfort sex does not have to involve a partner. Some people may feel most at ease and can soothe themselves. engage in self-love. Self-care is not complete without being sensitive with oneself. Masturbation and sensualizing ourselves are powerful self-care practices. We know what makes us feel happy, safe, comfortable and secure.
With that, some may see comfort sex as quite predictable, but this isn’t a bad thing. Variety can make sex life more enjoyable, and can keep the magic alive in times of boredom. However, comfort sex can always be something to look forward to. Because it will make you feel good.
What’s the Biology Behind Comfort Sex? Why Does it Feel So Good?
The brain is the most powerful sex organ. How we think, feel and experience things can impact how we have fun. What’s actually going on inside our bodies that allows us to feel so comfortable during comfort sex.
During the “getting to know you” intimacy phase, we go through a process of becoming familiar with someone. And once we’ve gone through this phase, we can begin to imbibe pleasure without actually thinking about what we’re doing. The brain, specifically the prefrontal cortex, can switch to relaxation mode and disconnect. This allows us to simply be present and enjoy the moment without worrying about it. It also allows us to experience an involuntary physiological condition, or orgasm.
Alternatively, when we find ourselves with a new partner, we are tasking our prefrontal cortex as we learn and adapt, which means that we’re thinking about what we’re doing. It is harder to attain the involuntary state. A more intense example of this would be “spectatoring”, which is when one worries about sex whilst having it.
So, just like being able to execute a new skill, such as riding a bike, we can enjoy an activity without thinking about it… we just do it. Comfort sex can simply be being intimate without thinking about it. It feels good. Secure, and it has the power to switch off the mind and enter a state that’s involuntary and oh so pleasurable.
So, whether you’re engaging in comfort sex with yourself or with someone else, it will almost always result in you getting the satisfaction that you crave, even if the act is not spontaneous and wild. It’s not a bad thing to have a routine.
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Her extensive experience in the field of sexuality, escort, and marketing sex has been a benefit to her.