For Western culture to be comfortable, one does not need a partner.
Women are no longer dependent upon men for income. Men are no longer dependent upon women to run their household and raise their families. Women are not dependent on men anymore, and vice versa. All of the old relationship models have been abandoned. It is not our choice whether or not we feel it, but need was the mainstay of many couples’ relationships in decades past.
Since we spend lots of time on social media observing what appears to be other people’s amazing romances, expectations for our own relationships are higher than ever. It’s not adequate to just be “satisfied” with your partner. We expect perfection from our partners and ourselves. Women should be intelligent, sexy, great lovers, and ready to engage in sexual activities like the stars of porn. Men should be emotionally sensitive, but still productive, and great parents.
We are very few people who can live up to these expectations. We constantly let ourselves down and our partners. We may have a harder time now finding a relationship, but it’s easier than ever to find alternative partners for hook-ups or an affair. There are many websites and apps that can be used to help you find the right partner. There are now more potential sex partners than ever before in human history.
While most people agree that the sociocultural evolution has been positive and constructive, it has also brought new challenges to traditional romance. There is less sex these days, but there are still high rates of sexual problems and dysfunctions. Companies like LELO have sex robots.
Experts agree that in two to five decades, humanoid sex robotics will be available. They will be more advanced than the current models and will look, talk, and move like humans. And even before sex robots become an affordable alternative to a human partner, sex tech – such as VR porn – is already changing the way people get their sexual needs met.
Advancements in sex tech offer benefits for many – people without sex partners can enjoy the experience of a creative and varied sex life, and couples can amp up their sexual repertoires by incorporating sex tech into their love lives. But we probably want to go forth into our intimate future with a little more awareness of what’s unfolding. The technology interfaces with all aspects of our lives and changes the way we eat, communicate, and even have sex.
Sooner than we may expect, sex robots will be capable of meeting people’s sexual needs – for better and for worse. So, as any sex writer worth their salt would suggest, let’s discuss it!
Communication is crucial. We have the power to utilize sex tech in ways that enhance our intimate relationships – or detract from them. It is time to have a conversation about the future intimate relationships we desire. Technology advances make it more important to be vulnerable and love, as well as our ability to give love and receive it. Let’s capitalize on the best of our humanness and co-create the future of intimacy.
With 16 years in the adult industry, including many years at LELO, it’s fair to say Stu has been around the sex toy block a few times. As LELO’s resident sex geek, he’s been featured in the Independent, the Guardian, HuffPost, Vice, Cosmopolitan, and anywhere people talk about sex. He spotlights the most important sex issues right now on Volonte in a regular Op-Ed. These views are his.